When They Say, Don’t Take Things Personally.....

Those who have the ability to compartmentalise and feel at ease with detaching are the ones who will more often than not use this term. Most times, it comes from a place of them being able to do it with ease, or not relating to how you are feeling and not wanting to hear how you feel. I see a lot of people offer spiritual sayings, assuming we should know how to do it.

A few examples

‘Just relax.’ What if you have never known quite how to relax due to coming from a household where you felt unsafe most of the time?

‘Let go.’ What if you, due to survival mode, have hung on to what you know due to pure terror of feeling abandoned, and the idea of letting go makes you feel even worse?

‘Rise above it’ Many of us have spent years out of our bodies due to trauma; we don’t need to fragment any more.

‘Trust that all will be well’ What if we had our trust broken over and over again as a child? Trust is not something everyone can relate to.

‘Don’t take things personally.’ What if you do take things personally due to being emotionally stuck at a certain age, and every time someone criticises you, you become that age emotionally again and behave similarly?

‘Simply manifest it!’ What if your default position doesn’t believe you are worth anything or deserve it?

‘If you're aligned, the money will come’ What if you are not aligned with money due to being a child in fear that you may not be fed that day?

‘Believe that you deserve it!’ What if you believe you don’t due to a parent who shamed you as being unworthy or growing up in hardship?

There is nothing wrong with these statements, but they mean little unless we know some of the ‘how to’s’ of how to get the debris out of the way so we can create these new ways of thinking and believing.

We have old default patterns of belief that can override our wishes for the better.

Many will go to a workshop and feel the buzz from the involvement, and during that time, the energy shifts and because of the collective positive energy, they feel totally aligned with the new thinking. After a few days, they are back to the daily grind and find that the old default patterns rises again and takes over.

When we are deep within a spiritual experience, we know all these statements to be true, but the emotional and mental bodies, including the memory that the physical body holds, have a different pattern of belief. A pattern of survival.

These negative beliefs have somehow kept us surviving during the times when we needed them the most.

I harp on about kindness quite a lot because it took me years to realise that I couldn't get anywhere beyond my limited beliefs if I kept criticising myself at every turn. The kindness I showed to others was just that, offered to others, which is great, but the comparison at which I treated myself within my mind was not healthy or kind.

That inner self-critic was like a lead weight. Full of the inability to relax into myself, to let go of guilt, be able to rise above an issue ( I was too busy fragmenting at every turn), unable to trust that I could be loved unconditionally, took any slight very personally, didn’t know how to manifest for fear of thinking I didn’t deserve it. It kept me playing small, so I wouldn’t be seen or upset anyone and get what I deserved, which was always less than. You know, dim my light.

In the early days, when I was invaded by dark entities who really thrashed me on every level, the only way that I finally got free was with a kind, inquiring mind, which then led to my expanded psychic abilities.

If we grew up in survival mode from whatever age, for whatever reason, we tend to resist a great deal and or spiritually bypass to just fit in.

When we inquire gently with curiosity towards our beliefs and put safety in place bit by bit, we then have the capacity to release some of that barnacle of resistance and bring change to the old beliefs. We begin to thrive rather than just survive.

Along the way, our innate abilities increase. We get to integrate a new kinder more compassionate inner narrative.

If you want to learn some of the ‘how to’

You know where to find me.

Blessings

Odette

(c) O. Nightsky

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